明明有工作需要做,但总是先做其他无关紧要的小事,一直拖延。
这样的情况可能大多数人都碰见过,但这到底是为什么?
我们为什么知道工作的时间已经不够了,还是一直拖延,不能控制自己?
心理学家认为,可能是你的时间管理有问题,对于这项工作需要多长时间没有清楚的认识,也没有严格控制浪费在其他事情上的时间。
但是最近有一个新理论认为,拖延症不是时间管理的问题,而是情绪调节的问题。
经常拖延的人在情绪不好的情况下,更容易选择拖延来逃避。
越容易拖延的人,心理灵活度越低。
心理灵活度是指一个人容忍不舒服的思想和心情的能力。
容易拖延的人更容易被挫败、担心等心理反应控制。
事实上,为了逃避现在的情绪而选择不完成任务的逃避行为,反而会让我们陷入拖延的恶性循环。
因为拖延重要的任务会让我们感到焦虑和愧疚,这样我们就更容易变得效率低下,问题越来越多。
怎么解决这个问题呢?
第一步就是原谅、接纳和理解自己。
也可以尝试着减少身边会分散注意力的东西,减少诱惑。
做的时候,从最容易的开始,让自己慢慢进入状态,后面的任务将会更容易。
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| Chinese | Pinyin | English |
|---|---|---|
| 明明 | míng míng | obviously / plainly / undoubtedly / definitely |
| 有 | yǒu | to have; there is |
| 工作 | gōng zuò | job / work / task |
| 需要 | xū yào | to need; to want; to demand; to require |
| 做 | zuò | to do; to engage in; to hold (a party etc) |
| 但 | dàn | but; yet; however; still |
| 总是 | zǒng shì | always |
| 先 | xiān | beforehand; first; earlier / at first; originally / for the time being; for now |
| 其他 | qí tā | other / (sth or sb) else / the rest |
| 无关紧要 | wú guān jǐn yào | indifferent / insignificant |
| 的 | de | possessive particle (of; 's) / modifying particle (used after an attribute to modify a noun or to form a nominal expression) |
| 小 | xiǎo | small / tiny / few |
| 事 | shì | matter / thing / item / affair |
| 一直 | yī zhí | straight (in a straight line) / continuously; always; all the way through |
| 拖延 | tuō yán | to delay / to put off / to procrastinate |
| 这样 | zhè yàng | (before a noun) this kind of; such |
| 情况 | qíng kuàng | circumstances; state of affairs; situation |
| 可能 | kě néng | might (happen) / maybe / perhaps |
| 大多数 | dà duō shù | (great) majority |
| 人 | rén | person; people |
| 都 | dōu | all; both; entirely |
| 碰见 | pèng jiàn | to run into / to meet (unexpectedly) / to bump into |
| 过 | guo | (experienced action marker) |
| 这 | zhè | this; these |
| 到底 | dào dǐ | finally / in the end / when all is said and done / after all |
| 是 | shì | to be (followed by substantives only) |
| 为什么 | wèi shén me | why? / for what reason? |
| 我们 | wǒ men | we; us; ourselves; our |
| 知道 | zhī dào | to know; to become aware of |
| 时间 | shí jiān | time |
| 已经 | yǐ jīng | already |
| 不 | bù | no; not so |
| 够 | gòu | enough (sufficient) / enough (too much) |
| 了 | le | (completed action marker) / (modal particle indicating change of state, situation now) |
| 还是 | hái shi | still (as before) |
| 不能 | bù néng | cannot / must not / should not |
| 控制 | kòng zhì | to control |
| 自己 | zì jǐ | oneself; (attributive) one's own |
| 心理学家 | xīn lǐ xué jiā | psychologist |
| 认为 | rèn wéi | to believe; to think; to consider; to feel |
| 你的 | nǐ de | your; yours |
| 管理 | guǎn lǐ | management / administration |
| 问题 | wèn tí | question / problem / issue / topic |
| 对于 | duì yú | regarding; as far as (sth) is concerned; with regard to |
| 这项 | zhè xiàng | this item/this task; this particular matter |
| 多 | duō | how (to what extent) |
| 长 | cháng | long |
| 没有 | méi yǒu | to not have |
| 清楚 | qīng chu | clear / distinct |
| 认识 | rèn shi | knowledge / understanding / awareness / cognition |
| 也 | yě | also; too; as well; (not ...) either |
| 严格 | yán gé | strict; stringent; tight; rigorous |
| 浪费 | làng fèi | to waste / to squander |
| 在 | zài | (of sb or sth) to be (located) at |
| 事情 | shì qing | affair; matter; thing; business |
| 上 | shàng | (noun suffix) on; above |
| 但是 | dàn shì | but; however |
| 最近 | zuì jìn | recently |
| 一 | yī | one / single / a (article) |
| 个 | gè | classifier for people or objects in general |
| 新 | xīn | new; newly |
| 理论 | lǐ lùn | theory |
| 拖延症 | tuō yán zhèng | procrastination |
| 而是 | ér shì | rather |
| 情绪 | qíng xù | mood / state of mind / moodiness |
| 调节 | tiáo jié | to adjust / to regulate / to harmonize / to reconcile (accountancy etc) |
| 经常 | jīng cháng | frequently; constantly; regularly; often |
| 好 | hǎo | good / appropriate; proper |
| 下 | xià | down / downwards / below |
| 更 | gèng | more / even more / further / still / still more |
| 容易 | róng yì | likely; liable to; apt to |
| 选择 | xuǎn zé | to select; to pick |
| 来 | lái | (between two verbs) in order to |
| 逃避 | táo bì | to escape / to evade / to avoid / to shirk |
| 越 | yuè | the more... the more |
| 心理 | xīn lǐ | psychology; mentality |
| 灵活度 | líng huó dù | degree of flexibility; flexibility level |
| 低 | dī | low |
| 指 | zhǐ | to point at or to / to indicate or refer to |
| 容忍 | róng rěn | to put up with / to tolerate |
| 舒服 | shū fu | comfortable / feeling well |
| 思想 | sī xiǎng | thought / thinking / idea / ideology |
| 和 | hé | and; together with |
| 心情 | xīn qíng | mood; frame of mind |
| 能力 | néng lì | capability / ability |
| 被 | bèi | used to indicate passive voice (placed before the doer of the action like "by" in English passive-voice sentences, or, if the doer is not mentioned, before the verb) / (sarcastic or jocular) used to indicate that the following word should be regarded as being in air quotes |
| 挫败 | cuò bài | to thwart; to foil (sb's plans) |
| 担心 | dān xīn | to worry / to be anxious |
| 等 | děng | and so on; etc.; et al. / (used to end an enumeration) |
| 反应 | fǎn yìng | reaction / response / reply / chemical reaction |
| 事实 | shì shí | fact |
| 为了 | wèi le | for; for the purpose of; in order to |
| 现在 | xiàn zài | now; at present; currently |
| 而 | ér | and so / (indicates causal relation) |
| 完成 | wán chéng | to complete; to accomplish |
| 任务 | rèn wu | mission; assignment; task; duty; role |
| 行为 | xíng wéi | action; conduct; behavior; activity |
| 反而 | fǎn ér | on the contrary; instead |
| 会 | huì | to be likely to; to be sure to |
| 让 | ràng | to permit / to let sb do sth / to have sb do sth / to make sb (feel sad etc) |
| 陷入 | xiàn rù | to sink into / to get caught up in / to land in (a predicament) |
| 恶性 | è xìng | malignant / wicked / vicious (circle) / producing evil / rapid (decline) / runaway (inflation) |
| 循环 | xún huán | circle / loop |
| 因为 | yīn wèi | because; owing to; on account of |
| 重要 | zhòng yào | important; significant; major |
| 感到 | gǎn dào | to feel; to sense; to perceive |
| 焦虑 | jiāo lǜ | anxious / worried / apprehensive |
| 愧疚 | kuì jiù | to feel guilty; to feel ashamed of oneself; to be remorseful |
| 就 | jiù | in that case; then |
| 变得 | biàn de | to become |
| 效率 | xiào lǜ | efficiency |
| 低下 | dī xià | low status / lowly |
| 越来越 | yuè lái yuè | more and more |
| 怎么 | zěn me | how? / what? / why? |
| 解决 | jiě jué | to solve; to resolve; to settle (a problem) |
| 呢 | ne | (sentence-final particle) used in questions to link back to prior discourse or context ("what about...?", "and...?") |
| 第 | dì | (prefix indicating ordinal number) |
| 步 | bù | a step / a pace / walk / march / stages in a process / situation |
| 原谅 | yuán liàng | to excuse / to forgive / to pardon |
| 接纳 | jiē nà | to admit (to membership) |
| 理解 | lǐ jiě | to comprehend; to understand |
| 可以 | kě yǐ | can / may / possible / able to |
| 尝试 | cháng shì | to try; to attempt |
| 着 | zhe | aspect particle indicating action in progress or ongoing state |
| 减少 | jiǎn shǎo | to lessen; to decrease; to reduce; to lower |
| 身边 | shēn biān | at one's side / on hand |
| 分散 | fēn sàn | to scatter / to disperse / to distribute |
| 注意力 | zhù yì lì | attention |
| 东西 | dōng xi | thing / stuff / person |
| 诱惑 | yòu huò | to entice / to lure / to induce / to attract |
| 时候 | shí hou | time / length of time / moment / period |
| 从 | cóng | from; through; via / (bound form) retainer; attendant / (bound form) assistant; auxiliary; subordinate / (bound form) related by common paternal grandfather or earlier ancestor |
| 最 | zuì | (before an adjective or verb) to the highest degree; (the) most ...; -est |
| 开始 | kāi shǐ | to begin / to start |
| 慢慢 | màn màn | slowly; gradually |
| 进入 | jìn rù | to enter / to join / to go into |
| 状态 | zhuàng tài | condition; state; state of affairs |
| 后面 | hòu miàn | behind; near the end; at the back / later; afterwards |
| 将 | jiāng | will / shall |