1964年,苏敏出生于西藏,后来她跟随家人来到了河南学习和生活,成为了一名工人。
她曾经也渴望通过婚姻改变自己的生活,但是事与愿违,后面漫长的几十年婚姻生活却让她的生活变得更艰难。
和当时的大多数女孩一样,苏敏经过别人介绍,认识了现在的丈夫。
结婚前,因为丈夫在外地工作,他们只见过两次面,吃过两顿饭。
结婚一年后,她就怀孕生下了女儿。
后来因为失业,她当了一段时间的家庭主妇。
也是这一段家庭主妇的经历让她发现丈夫对钱斤斤计较,于是她开始打工赚钱。
那段时间,她白天要照顾孩子、做家务,晚上出去工作,几乎每天都在凌晨出门,早上六点回家。
即使她开始赚钱,丈夫依然非常挑剔,他们的婚姻也变成了AA制婚姻。
36岁时她与丈夫分居了。
苏敏的前半生看起来并不幸福。
直到2019年,她无意中看到一个关于自驾游的网络视频,仿佛打开了新世界的大门。
因为无法忍受丈夫和不幸福的生活,她决定开始全国自驾游,成为一名旅游博主。
2020年,苏敏开始了自己的自驾游旅程。
只有在路上,她才是她自己,不再是别人的妻子、妈妈、外婆。
她的旅程也非常自由,去了100多个城市,认识了很多新朋友,生活越来越充实,笑容也越来越多。
这一路的旅游经历都被苏敏用镜头记录下来并发布在网络上,也引起了大家的关注。
随着她越来越有名,除了退休工资,她也有了旅游博主的额外收入。
2022年,苏敏买了一辆房车,她说自己终于拥有了人生中第一个完全属于自己的家。
她的经历也鼓舞了很多网络上的陌生人,让他们有勇气去追求自己的生活。
为了女儿,那么多年苏敏一直选择忍耐,没有想过离婚,可是丈夫的行为一次次地伤害着她。
即使在她患重度抑郁症期间,丈夫也没有丝毫改变。
现在,她终于决定要离婚了,女儿和女婿也表示支持她的决定。
苏敏走过了更远的路,认识了更多的人,也看见了更大的世界,终于变成了自由的她。
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| Chinese | Pinyin | English |
|---|---|---|
| 年 | nián | year |
| 苏敏 | Sū Mǐn | a personal name; Su Min |
| 出生 | chū shēng | to be born |
| 于 | yú | (of time or place) in; at; on / (indicating any indirect relation) to; toward; vis-à-vis; with regard to; for / (indicating a source) from; out of / (used in comparison) than / (used in the passive voice) by |
| 西藏 | Xī zàng | Tibet; an autonomous region in southwest China. |
| 后来 | hòu lái | afterwards; later |
| 她 | tā | she |
| 跟随 | gēn suí | to follow |
| 家人 | jiā rén | family member |
| 来到 | lái dào | to arrive; to come |
| 了 | le | (completed action marker) / (modal particle indicating change of state, situation now) |
| 河南 | Hén án | Henan; a province in central China. |
| 学习 | xué xí | to learn / to study |
| 和 | hé | and; together with |
| 生活 | shēng huó | to live |
| 成为 | chéng wéi | to become; to turn into |
| 一 | yī | one / single / a (article) |
| 名 | míng | classifier for people |
| 工人 | gōng rén | worker |
| 曾经 | céng jīng | once / already / former / previously / ever / (past tense marker used before verb or clause) |
| 也 | yě | also; too; as well; (not ...) either |
| 渴望 | kě wàng | to thirst for / to long for |
| 通过 | tōng guò | by means of; through; via |
| 婚姻 | hūn yīn | marriage; matrimony |
| 改变 | gǎi biàn | to change / to alter / to transform |
| 自己 | zì jǐ | oneself; (attributive) one's own |
| 的 | de | possessive particle (of; 's) / modifying particle (used after an attribute to modify a noun or to form a nominal expression) |
| 但是 | dàn shì | but; however |
| 事与愿违 | shì yǔ yuàn wéi | things turn out contrary to the way one wishes (idiom) |
| 后面 | hòu miàn | behind; near the end; at the back / later; afterwards |
| 漫长 | màn cháng | very long / endless |
| 几十 | jǐ shí | dozens; several tens; an approximate number in the tens |
| 却 | què | but / yet / however / while / nevertheless / even though |
| 让 | ràng | to permit / to let sb do sth / to have sb do sth / to make sb (feel sad etc) |
| 她的 | tā de | her; hers |
| 变 | biàn | to change / to become different / to transform / to vary |
| 得 | de | structural particle: used after a verb (or adjective as main verb), linking it to following phrase indicating effect, degree, possibility etc |
| 更 | gèng | more / even more / further / still / still more |
| 艰难 | jiān nán | difficult / hard / challenging |
| 当时 | dāng shí | then; at that time |
| 大多数 | dà duō shù | (great) majority |
| 女孩 | nǚ hái | girl; lass |
| 一样 | yī yàng | same / like / equal to / the same as |
| 经过 | jīng guò | to pass / to go through |
| 别人 | bié rén | other people; others; other person |
| 介绍 | jiè shào | to introduce (sb to sb) / to give a presentation / to present |
| 认识 | rèn shi | to know / to recognize / to be familiar with / to get acquainted with sb |
| 现在 | xiàn zài | now; at present; currently |
| 丈夫 | zhàng fu | husband |
| 结婚 | jié hūn | to marry; to get married |
| 前 | qián | ago / before / BC / former / formerly |
| 因为 | yīn wèi | because; owing to; on account of |
| 在 | zài | (of sb or sth) to be (located) at |
| 外地 | wài dì | parts of the country other than where one is |
| 工作 | gōng zuò | to work / (of a machine) to operate |
| 他们 | tā men | they; them |
| 只 | zhǐ | only; merely; just |
| 见 | jiàn | to see / to meet / to appear (to be sth) / to interview |
| 过 | guo | (experienced action marker) |
| 两 | liǎng | two / both / some / a few |
| 次 | cì | classifier for enumerated events: time |
| 面 | miàn | face |
| 吃 | chī | to eat; to consume / to eat at |
| 顿 | dùn | classifier for meals, beatings, scoldings etc: time, bout, spell, meal |
| 饭 | fàn | meal |
| 后 | hòu | afterwards / after |
| 就 | jiù | in that case; then |
| 怀孕 | huái yùn | pregnant |
| 生 | shēng | to grow; to give birth; to produce; to be born / to arise; to occur / to light (a fire) |
| 下 | xià | to decline / to go down |
| 女儿 | nǚ ér | daughter |
| 失业 | shī yè | unemployment |
| 当 | dāng | to be / to act as |
| 段 | duàn | classifier for stories, periods of time, lengths of thread etc |
| 时间 | shí jiān | time |
| 家庭 | jiā tíng | family; household |
| 主妇 | zhǔ fù | housewife / woman of senior authority in a household / the lady of the house / hostess |
| 是 | shì | to be (followed by substantives only) |
| 这 | zhè | this; these |
| 经历 | jīng lì | experience |
| 发现 | fā xiàn | to notice; to become aware of / to discover; to find; to detect |
| 对 | duì | towards; at; for / concerning; regarding |
| 钱 | qián | coin / money / unit of weight, one tenth of a tael |
| 斤斤计较 | jīn jīn jì jiào | to haggle over every ounce / (fig.) to fuss over minor matters / to split hairs |
| 于是 | yú shì | thereupon; as a result; consequently; thus; hence |
| 开始 | kāi shǐ | to begin / to start |
| 打工 | dǎ gōng | to work a temporary or casual job / (of students) to have a job outside of class time, or during vacation |
| 赚 | zhuàn | to earn / to make a profit |
| 那 | nà | (specifier) that; the; those / (pronoun) that (referring to persons, things or situations) |
| 白天 | bái tiān | during the day |
| 要 | yào | will; shall; about to / need to; should / if |
| 照顾 | zhào gù | to take care of / to show consideration / to attend to / to look after |
| 孩子 | hái zi | child |
| 做 | zuò | to do; to engage in; to hold (a party etc) |
| 家务 | jiā wù | household duties / housework |
| 晚上 | wǎn shang | in the evening |
| 出去 | chū qù | to go out |
| 几乎 | jī hū | almost; nearly; practically |
| 每 | měi | each / every |
| 天 | tiān | day |
| 都 | dōu | all; both; entirely |
| 凌晨 | líng chén | very early in the morning / in the wee hours |
| 出门 | chū mén | to go out / to leave home / to go on a journey / (of a woman) to get married |
| 早上 | zǎo shang | early morning |
| 六 | liù | six / 6 |
| 点 | diǎn | point; dot; spot; speck / dot stroke in Chinese characters / (math.) decimal point / point in time or space / (after a number) o'clock |
| 回家 | huí jiā | to return home |
| 即使 | jí shǐ | even if; even though |
| 依然 | yī rán | still; as before |
| 非常 | fēi cháng | very; really |
| 挑剔 | tiāo ti | picky / fussy |
| 他们的 | tā men de | their |
| 变成 | biàn chéng | to change into / to turn into / to become |
| AA制 | AA zhì | to split the bill; to go Dutch |
| 岁 | suì | classifier for years (of age) |
| 时 | shí | when |
| 与 | yǔ | (formal) with; from (marking the other participant in an interaction, comparison, or contrast) |
| 分居 | fēn jū | to separate (married couple) / to live apart (of husband and wife, family members) |
| 前半生 | qián bàn shēng | first half of one's life |
| 看 | kàn | to see; to look at / to read / to watch / to visit; to call on / to consider; to regard as / to look after / to treat (a patient or illness) / to depend on / to feel (that) / (after a verb) to give it a try / to watch out for |
| 起来 | qǐ lái | indicating the beginning and continuation of an action or a state / indicating an upward movement / indicating completion / expressing preliminary judgment |
| 并 | bìng | (not) at all |
| 不 | bù | no; not so |
| 幸福 | xìng fú | happy / blessed |
| 直到 | zhí dào | until |
| 无意 | wú yì | inadvertent / accidental |
| 中 | zhōng | while (doing sth); during |
| 到 | dào | to reach; to arrive / to (a place); until (a time); up to (a point) / (verb complement indicating arriving at a place or reaching a point) |
| 个 | gè | classifier for people or objects in general |
| 关于 | guān yú | pertaining to / concerning / with regard to / about / a matter of |
| 自驾游 | zì jià yóu | to go on a self-drive tour; to go on a road trip |
| 网络 | Wǎng luò | Internet |
| 视频 | shì pín | video |
| 仿佛 | fǎng fú | to seem; as if; seemingly |
| 打 | dǎ | a semantically light, transitive verb that is combined with various grammatical objects to form compound verbs and verb-object phrases with a diverse range of meanings |
| 开 | kāi | to open (transitive or intransitive) |
| 新 | xīn | new; newly |
| 世界 | shì jiè | world |
| 大 | dà | big; large; great / older (than another person) / eldest |
| 门 | mén | gate / door / gateway / doorway / opening / valve / switch / way to do something / knack / family / house / (religious) sect / school (of thought) / class / category / phylum or division (taxonomy) / (suffix) -gate (i.e. scandal; derived from Watergate) |
| 无法 | wú fǎ | unable to; incapable of |
| 忍受 | rěn shòu | to bear; to endure |
| 决定 | jué dìng | to decide; to determine; to make up one's mind |
| 全 | quán | all / whole / entire / every / complete |
| 国 | guó | (bound form) national |
| 旅游 | lǚ yóu | trip / journey / tourism / travel / tour |
| 博主 | bó zhǔ | blogger |
| 旅程 | lǚ chéng | journey / trip |
| 只有 | zhǐ yǒu | (只有……才……) it is only if ... (that one can ...) / it is only (someone) who ... |
| 路上 | lù shang | on the way; en route |
| 才 | cái | then and only then |
| 不再 | bù zài | no more; no longer |
| 妻子 | qī zi | wife |
| 妈妈 | mā ma | mama / mommy / mother |
| 外婆 | wài pó | (coll.) mother's mother / maternal grandmother |
| 自由 | zì yóu | free; unrestricted |
| 去 | qù | to go, to go to |
| 多 | duō | (after a numeral) ... odd |
| 城市 | chéng shì | city; town |
| 很多 | hěn duō | many; a lot of |
| 朋友 | péng you | friend |
| 越来越 | yuè lái yuè | more and more |
| 充实 | chōng shí | rich / full / substantial |
| 笑容 | xiào róng | smile / smiling expression |
| 路 | lù | road / journey / route / line (bus etc) / sort; kind |
| 被 | bèi | used to indicate passive voice (placed before the doer of the action like "by" in English passive-voice sentences, or, if the doer is not mentioned, before the verb) / (sarcastic or jocular) used to indicate that the following word should be regarded as being in air quotes |
| 用 | yòng | to use; to make use of; to employ / (coverb) with; using |
| 镜头 | jìng tóu | camera lens / camera shot (in a movie etc) / scene |
| 记录 | jì lù | to record |
| 下来 | xià lái | (completed action marker) |
| 发布 | fā bù | to release / to issue / to announce / to distribute |
| 上 | shàng | (noun suffix) on; above |
| 引起 | yǐn qǐ | to give rise to; to lead to; to cause; to arouse |
| 大家 | dà jiā | everyone |
| 关注 | guān zhù | concern; interest; attention |
| 随着 | suí zhe | along with / in the wake of / following |
| 有名 | yǒu míng | famous / well-known |
| 除了 | chú le | apart from; besides; in addition to |
| 退休 | tuì xiū | to retire (from the workforce); to go into retirement |
| 工资 | gōng zī | wages; pay |
| 有 | yǒu | to have; there is |
| 额外 | é wài | extra / added / additional |
| 收入 | shōu rù | income / revenue |
| 买 | mǎi | to buy / to purchase |
| 辆 | liàng | classifier for vehicles |
| 房车 | fáng chē | recreational vehicle |
| 说 | shuō | to speak; to talk; to say |
| 终于 | zhōng yú | at last / in the end / finally / eventually |
| 拥有 | yōng yǒu | to have; to possess |
| 人生 | rén shēng | life (one's time on earth) |
| 第一 | dì yī | first |
| 完全 | wán quán | totally; entirely |
| 属于 | shǔ yú | to belong to; to fall under (a category) |
| 家 | jiā | home / family / (polite) my (sister, uncle etc) |
| 鼓舞 | gǔ wǔ | to inspire; to encourage; to hearten; to boost (morale) |
| 陌生 | mò shēng | strange; unfamiliar |
| 人 | rén | person; people |
| 勇气 | yǒng qì | courage |
| 追求 | zhuī qiú | to pursue (a goal etc) stubbornly / to seek after |
| 为了 | wèi le | for; for the purpose of; in order to |
| 那么 | nà me | (before a number) ... or so; about ... |
| 一直 | yī zhí | straight (in a straight line) / continuously; always; all the way through |
| 选择 | xuǎn zé | to select; to pick |
| 忍耐 | rěn nài | to endure; to put up with; to exercise patience |
| 没有 | méi yǒu | haven't / hasn't |
| 想 | xiǎng | to think (about) / to think of; to devise / to think (that); to believe (that) |
| 离婚 | lí hūn | to divorce |
| 可是 | kě shì | but; however |
| 行为 | xíng wéi | action; conduct; behavior; activity |
| 地 | de | -ly / structural particle: used before a verb or adjective, linking it to preceding modifying adverbial adjunct |
| 伤害 | shāng hài | to injure; to harm |
| 着 | zhe | aspect particle indicating action in progress or ongoing state |
| 患 | huàn | to suffer (from illness) / to contract (a disease) |
| 重度 | zhòng dù | serious / severe |
| 抑郁症 | yì yù zhèng | clinical depression |
| 期间 | qī jiān | period of time / time / time period / period |
| 丝毫 | sī háo | the slightest amount or degree / a bit |
| 女婿 | nǚ xu | daughter's husband; son-in-law |
| 表示 | biǎo shì | (of sb) to express; to state; to show / (of sth) to indicate; to signify; to show |
| 支持 | zhī chí | to be in favor of / to support / to back / to stand by |
| 走 | zǒu | to walk / to go / to run / to move (of vehicle) / to visit / to leave / to go away / to die (euph.) / to change (shape, form, meaning) |
| 远 | yuǎn | far / distant / remote |
| 看见 | kàn jiàn | to see; to catch sight of |