比尔·盖茨应该是世界上最成功的人之一了，拥有成功人生的他是如何培养和教育自己的下一代的呢？
盖茨说他的教育方法是“爱和逻辑”，也就是控制父母的情绪反应，多赞美孩子本身而不是依靠物质奖励，引导孩子自己去解决问题。
盖茨夫妇有三个子女，目前分别为15岁、18岁和22岁。
他们夫妇二人对孩子的教育问题非常慎重。
爱和逻辑”教育模式的核心理念是情绪控制，即最大程度地减少情绪反应，如大喊大叫、训斥孩子。
盖茨也承认，他和妻子在实践这种教育法时做得并不完美。
除了控制父母的激烈情绪外，爱和逻辑教育模式还强调不要依赖物质奖励。
相反，父母应该表达无条件的爱，应该赞美孩子本身，而非他们的成就或失败（例如考试分数）。
盖茨曾经在TED上说：“我们希望取得平衡，让孩子们能够自由自在地做任何事情，而不是给予他们大量金钱，让他们无所事事。
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| Chinese | Pinyin | English |
|---|---|---|
| 比尔·盖茨 | Bǐ ěr · Gài cí | Bill Gates (1955-), co-founder of Microsoft |
| 应该 | yīng gāi | ought to; should; must |
| 是 | shì | to be (followed by substantives only) |
| 世界 | shì jiè | world |
| 上 | shàng | (noun suffix) on; above |
| 最 | zuì | (before an adjective or verb) to the highest degree; (the) most ...; -est |
| 成功 | chéng gōng | successful; fruitful |
| 的 | de | possessive particle (of; 's) / modifying particle (used after an attribute to modify a noun or to form a nominal expression) |
| 人 | rén | person; people |
| 之一 | zhī yī | one of (sth) / one out of a multitude / one (third, quarter, percent etc) |
| 了 | le | (completed action marker) / (modal particle indicating change of state, situation now) |
| 拥有 | yōng yǒu | to have; to possess |
| 人生 | rén shēng | life (one's time on earth) |
| 他 | tā | he; him; his |
| 如何 | rú hé | how / what way / what |
| 培养 | péi yǎng | to cultivate / to breed / to foster / to nurture / to educate / to groom (for a position) |
| 和 | hé | and; together with |
| 教育 | jiào yù | to educate / to teach |
| 自己 | zì jǐ | oneself; (attributive) one's own |
| 下一代 | xià yī dài | the next generation |
| 呢 | ne | (sentence-final particle) used in questions to link back to prior discourse or context ("what about...?", "and...?") |
| 盖茨 | Gài cí | Gates (name) |
| 说 | shuō | to speak; to talk; to say |
| 他的 | tā de | his; belonging to him |
| 方法 | fāng fǎ | method; way; technique; procedure |
| 爱 | ài | affection |
| 逻辑 | luó jí | (loanword) logic |
| 也 | yě | also; too; as well; (not ...) either |
| 就是 | jiù shì | exactly; precisely / only; simply; just / even; even if |
| 控制 | kòng zhì | to control |
| 父母 | fù mǔ | father and mother; parents |
| 情绪 | qíng xù | mood / state of mind / moodiness |
| 反应 | fǎn yìng | reaction / response / reply / chemical reaction |
| 多 | duō | many; much; more; a lot of |
| 赞美 | zàn měi | to admire / to praise / to eulogize |
| 孩子 | hái zi | child |
| 本身 | běn shēn | itself |
| 而 | ér | but (not) / yet (not) / (indicates contrast) |
| 不 | bù | no; not so |
| 依靠 | yī kào | to rely on sth (for support etc); to depend on |
| 物质 | wù zhì | matter / substance / material |
| 奖励 | jiǎng lì | reward (as encouragement) |
| 引导 | yǐn dǎo | to guide / to lead (around) / to conduct / to boot |
| 去 | qù | to go, to go to |
| 解决 | jiě jué | to solve; to resolve; to settle (a problem) |
| 问题 | wèn tí | question / problem / issue / topic |
| 夫妇 | fū fù | a (married) couple / husband and wife |
| 有 | yǒu | to have; there is |
| 三 | sān | three / 3 |
| 个 | gè | classifier for people or objects in general |
| 子 | zǐ | son / child / seed / egg / small thing |
| 女 | nǚ | daughter |
| 目前 | mù qián | at the present time / currently |
| 分别 | fēn bié | in different ways; differently / separately; individually |
| 为 | wéi | to take sth as / to act as / to serve as / to behave as / to become / to be / to do |
| 岁 | suì | classifier for years (of age) |
| 他们 | tā men | they; them |
| 二 | èr | two / 2 |
| 对 | duì | towards; at; for / concerning; regarding |
| 非常 | fēi cháng | very; really |
| 慎重 | shèn zhòng | cautious / careful / prudent |
| 模式 | mó shì | mode; pattern; model |
| 核心 | hé xīn | core; nucleus |
| 理念 | lǐ niàn | idea / concept / philosophy / theory |
| 即 | jí | namely / that is / i.e. / prompt / at once / at present / even if / prompted (by the occasion) |
| 最大 | zuì dà | largest; maximum; greatest |
| 程度 | chéng dù | degree; level; extent |
| 地 | de | -ly / structural particle: used before a verb or adjective, linking it to preceding modifying adverbial adjunct |
| 减少 | jiǎn shǎo | to lessen; to decrease; to reduce; to lower |
| 如 | rú | as / as if / such as |
| 大喊 | dà hǎn | to shout |
| 大叫 | dà jiào | to shout loudly; to yell |
| 训斥 | xùn chì | to reprimand / to rebuke / to berate |
| 承认 | chéng rèn | to admit / to concede / to recognize / to acknowledge |
| 妻子 | qī zi | wife |
| 在 | zài | (used before a verb to indicate an action in progress) |
| 实践 | shí jiàn | to put into practice / to live up to (a promise) / to carry out (a project) |
| 这种 | zhè zhǒng | this kind of |
| 法 | fǎ | law / method / way / (Buddhism) dharma / (abbr. for 法家) the Legalists / (physics) farad (abbr. for 法拉) |
| 时 | shí | when |
| 做 | zuò | to do; to engage in; to hold (a party etc) |
| 得 | de | structural particle: used after a verb (or adjective as main verb), linking it to following phrase indicating effect, degree, possibility etc |
| 并 | bìng | (not) at all |
| 完美 | wán měi | perfect |
| 除了 | chú le | apart from; besides; in addition to |
| 激烈 | jī liè | (of competition or fighting) intense / fierce / (of pain) acute / (of an expression of opinion) impassioned / vehement / (of a course of action) drastic / extreme |
| 外 | wài | in addition |
| 还 | hái | in addition, also, else, even |
| 强调 | qiáng diào | to emphasize (a statement) / to stress |
| 不要 | bù yào | don't!; must not |
| 依赖 | yī lài | to depend on; to be dependent on |
| 相反 | xiāng fǎn | opposite / contrary |
| 表达 | biǎo dá | to express; to convey |
| 无 | wú | un- / -less |
| 条件 | tiáo jiàn | condition; circumstance; term; factor / situation; state; condition |
| 非 | fēi | to not be; not / to reproach; to blame / (coll.) to insist on; simply must |
| 成就 | chéng jiù | accomplishment / success / achievement |
| 或 | huò | or |
| 失败 | shī bài | failure / defeat |
| 例如 | lì rú | for example; for instance; such as |
| 考试 | kǎo shì | exam |
| 分数 | fēn shù | (exam) grade / mark / score / fraction |
| 曾经 | céng jīng | once / already / former / previously / ever / (past tense marker used before verb or clause) |
| 我们 | wǒ men | we; us; ourselves; our |
| 希望 | xī wàng | to hope |
| 取得 | qǔ dé | to acquire; to get; to obtain |
| 平衡 | píng héng | balance / equilibrium |
| 让 | ràng | to permit / to let sb do sth / to have sb do sth / to make sb (feel sad etc) |
| 们 | men | plural marker for pronouns, and nouns referring to individuals |
| 能够 | néng gòu | to be capable of / to be able to |
| 自由自在 | zì yóu zì zài | free and easy (idiom); carefree |
| 任何 | rèn hé | any; whatever; whichever |
| 事情 | shì qing | affair; matter; thing; business |
| 给予 | jǐ yǔ | (literary) to give; to accord; to render |
| 大量 | dà liàng | great amount / large quantity / bulk |
| 金钱 | jīn qián | money / currency |
| 无所事事 | wú suǒ shì shì | to have nothing to do / to idle one's time away (idiom) |