你是一个害羞的人吗？
什么情况下你会害羞呢？
害羞的人肯定不会在任何时候都害羞。
比如，和亲密的家人、朋友在一起时，你肯定会感觉很放松。
害羞是因为有不安全感，只有你知道了让自己感到不安全的原因，才能采取行动，改变自己。
比如，你在演讲时、做工作报告时会紧张，会感到害羞。
那你就需要花更多的时间去做准备，提升自己的信心，提高自己的报告技能。
据说那些优秀的专家们都会花一万个小时去训练他们的技能。
还有一些人太关注自己的短处，而忽略了自己的长处。
你擅长做什么？
有过什么成就？
什么事情让你感到骄傲？
想想这些，不要只看到自己做得不好的地方。
容易感到害羞，还有一个原因，那就是你太在乎别人的看法了。
但有意思的是，大部分人根本没有时间注意你做了什么，或者没有做什么。
别人的看法并不那么重要。
你认识谁外向、自信吗？
不管是名人还是朋友，如果你知道这样的人，那就把他们当做你的榜样吧！
一旦你害羞了，就问问自己，如果这个人在这种情况下会怎么做？
然后向这个人学习。
很快，你也会变得越来越外向和自信。
多观察别人怎么做，对你也有很多好处。
现在你知道该怎么告别害羞了吗？
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| Chinese | Pinyin | English |
|---|---|---|
| 你 | nǐ | you |
| 是 | shì | to be (followed by substantives only) |
| 一 | yī | one / single / a (article) |
| 个 | gè | classifier for people or objects in general |
| 害羞 | hài xiū | shy / embarrassed / bashful |
| 的 | de | possessive particle (of; 's) / modifying particle (used after an attribute to modify a noun or to form a nominal expression) |
| 人 | rén | person; people |
| 吗 | ma | (question particle for "yes-no" questions) |
| 什么 | shén me | what? |
| 情况 | qíng kuàng | circumstances; state of affairs; situation |
| 下 | xià | down / downwards / below |
| 会 | huì | to be likely to; to be sure to |
| 呢 | ne | (sentence-final particle) used in questions to link back to prior discourse or context ("what about...?", "and...?") |
| 肯定 | kěn dìng | assuredly; definitely |
| 不会 | bù huì | will not |
| 在 | zài | (of sb or sth) to be (located) at |
| 任何 | rèn hé | any; whatever; whichever |
| 时候 | shí hou | time / length of time / moment / period |
| 都 | dōu | all; both; entirely |
| 比如 | bǐ rú | for example; for instance; such as |
| 和 | hé | and; together with |
| 亲密 | qīn mì | intimate / close |
| 家人 | jiā rén | family member |
| 朋友 | péng you | friend |
| 一起 | yī qǐ | together; in company (with) |
| 时 | shí | when |
| 感觉 | gǎn jué | to feel; to perceive |
| 很 | hěn | very; quite |
| 放松 | fàng sōng | to relax; to slacken; to loosen |
| 因为 | yīn wèi | because; owing to; on account of |
| 有 | yǒu | to have; there is |
| 不 | bù | no; not so |
| 安全 | ān quán | safety; security |
| 感 | gǎn | (suffix) sense of ~ |
| 只有 | zhǐ yǒu | (只有……才……) it is only if ... (that one can ...) / it is only (someone) who ... |
| 知道 | zhī dào | to know; to become aware of |
| 了 | le | (completed action marker) / (modal particle indicating change of state, situation now) |
| 让 | ràng | to permit / to let sb do sth / to have sb do sth / to make sb (feel sad etc) |
| 自己 | zì jǐ | oneself; (attributive) one's own |
| 感到 | gǎn dào | to feel; to sense; to perceive |
| 原因 | yuán yīn | cause / origin / root cause / reason |
| 才 | cái | then and only then |
| 能 | néng | can / to be able to / might possibly |
| 采取 | cǎi qǔ | to adopt or carry out / to take |
| 行动 | xíng dòng | operation / action |
| 改变 | gǎi biàn | to change / to alter / to transform |
| 演讲 | yǎn jiǎng | to give a lecture; to make a speech |
| 做 | zuò | to do; to engage in; to hold (a party etc) |
| 工作 | gōng zuò | job / work / task |
| 报告 | bào gào | report / speech / talk / lecture |
| 紧张 | jǐn zhāng | nervous / keyed up / intense / tense / strained |
| 那 | nà | then (in that case) |
| 就 | jiù | in that case; then |
| 需要 | xū yào | to need; to want; to demand; to require |
| 花 | huā | to spend (money, time) |
| 更多 | gèng duō | more; greater in amount, degree, or number |
| 时间 | shí jiān | time |
| 去 | qù | (after a verb of motion) movement away from the speaker; (after certain verbs) detachment or separation |
| 准备 | zhǔn bèi | preparation |
| 提升 | tí shēng | (fig.) to elevate; to raise; to improve |
| 信心 | xìn xīn | confidence / faith (in sb or sth) |
| 提高 | tí gāo | to raise / to increase / to improve |
| 技能 | jì néng | technical ability / skill |
| 据说 | jù shuō | it is said that; reportedly |
| 那些 | nà xiē | those |
| 优秀 | yōu xiù | outstanding; excellent |
| 专家 | zhuān jiā | expert; specialist |
| 们 | men | plural marker for pronouns, and nouns referring to individuals |
| 一万 | yī wàn | ten thousand; 10,000 |
| 小时 | xiǎo shí | hour |
| 训练 | xùn liàn | to train / to drill |
| 他们 | tā men | they; them |
| 还有 | hái yǒu | in addition |
| 一些 | yī xiē | some; a few; a little; (following an adjective) slightly ...er |
| 太 | tài | too (much) / very / extremely |
| 关注 | guān zhù | to pay attention to; to follow sth closely; to follow (on social media) |
| 短处 | duǎn chù | shortcoming / defect / fault / one's weak points |
| 而 | ér | but (not) / yet (not) / (indicates contrast) |
| 忽略 | hū lüè | to neglect; to overlook; to ignore |
| 长处 | cháng chù | good aspects / strong points |
| 擅长 | shàn cháng | to be good at; to be expert in |
| 过 | guo | (experienced action marker) |
| 成就 | chéng jiù | accomplishment / success / achievement |
| 事情 | shì qing | affair; matter; thing; business |
| 骄傲 | jiāo ào | conceited / proud of sth |
| 想 | xiǎng | to think (about) / to think of; to devise / to think (that); to believe (that) |
| 这些 | zhè xiē | these |
| 不要 | bù yào | don't!; must not |
| 只 | zhǐ | only; merely; just |
| 看 | kàn | to see; to look at / to read / to watch / to visit; to call on / to consider; to regard as / to look after / to treat (a patient or illness) / to depend on / to feel (that) / (after a verb) to give it a try / to watch out for |
| 到 | dào | to reach; to arrive / to (a place); until (a time); up to (a point) / (verb complement indicating arriving at a place or reaching a point) |
| 得 | de | structural particle: used after a verb (or adjective as main verb), linking it to following phrase indicating effect, degree, possibility etc |
| 好 | hǎo | good / appropriate; proper |
| 地方 | dì fang | place; location; area; space; territory / aspect; part |
| 容易 | róng yì | likely; liable to; apt to |
| 在乎 | zài hu | to rest with; to lie in; to be due to (a certain attribute) / (often used in the negative) to care about |
| 别人 | bié rén | other people; others; other person |
| 看法 | kàn fǎ | way of looking at a thing / view / opinion |
| 但 | dàn | but; yet; however; still |
| 有意思 | yǒu yì si | interesting / meaningful / enjoyable / fun |
| 大 | dà | big; large; great / older (than another person) / eldest |
| 部分 | bù fen | part; portion; piece |
| 根本 | gēn běn | simply / absolutely (not) / (not) at all |
| 没有 | méi yǒu | to not have |
| 注意 | zhù yì | to take note of; to pay attention to |
| 或者 | huò zhě | possibly; maybe; perhaps |
| 并 | bìng | (not) at all |
| 那么 | nà me | like that; in that way; to that extent |
| 重要 | zhòng yào | important; significant; major |
| 认识 | rèn shi | to know / to recognize / to be familiar with / to get acquainted with sb |
| 谁 | shéi | who |
| 外向 | wài xiàng | extroverted (personality) / (economics etc) export-oriented |
| 自信 | zì xìn | to have confidence in oneself |
| 不管 | bù guǎn | regardless of / no matter |
| 名人 | míng rén | personage / celebrity |
| 还是 | hái shi | or |
| 如果 | rú guǒ | if; in case; in the event that |
| 这样 | zhè yàng | (before a noun) this kind of; such |
| 把 | bǎ | (used to put the object before the verb: 把[ba3] + {noun} + {verb}) |
| 当 | dàng | to replace / to regard as / to think / to pawn / (coll.) to fail (a student) |
| 榜样 | bǎng yàng | model; example (for people to follow); (in reference to a person) role model |
| 吧 | ba | (modal particle indicating suggestion or surmise) / ...right? / ...OK? / ...I presume. |
| 一旦 | yī dàn | in case (sth happens) / if / once (sth happens, then...) / when / in a short time |
| 问 | wèn | to ask; to inquire |
| 这 | zhè | this; these |
| 种 | zhǒng | classifier for types, kinds, sorts |
| 怎么 | zěn me | how? / what? / why? |
| 然后 | rán hòu | then; after that; afterwards |
| 向 | xiàng | towards / shortly before / formerly / always / all along |
| 学习 | xué xí | to learn / to study |
| 快 | kuài | rapid / quick |
| 也 | yě | also; too; as well; (not ...) either |
| 变得 | biàn de | to become |
| 越来越 | yuè lái yuè | more and more |
| 多 | duō | many; much; more; a lot of |
| 观察 | guān chá | to observe; to watch; to survey |
| 对 | duì | towards; at; for / concerning; regarding |
| 很多 | hěn duō | many; a lot of |
| 好处 | hǎo chù | benefit; advantage; merit / gain; profit |
| 现在 | xiàn zài | now; at present; currently |
| 该 | gāi | should / ought to / probably / must be |
| 告别 | gào bié | to leave; to part from / to bid farewell to; to say goodbye to |