有一次，朋友去一个教授家中做客。
教授有个五岁的小女儿，长得非常漂亮。
朋友对小女孩说："你长得真漂亮。
”并把带去的礼物给了她。
小女孩有礼貌地微笑着说："谢谢。
”教授等女儿离开后，很严肃地对朋友说："请你为你刚才的夸奖道歉。
”朋友感到很吃惊，但是教授继续说："你夸孩子漂亮，孩子很可能会把天生的美丽看成是她值得骄傲的资本，这是一种错误的引导。
不过你还有机会弥补，你可以夸奖她的微笑和有礼貌，这是她自己努力的结果。
”后来朋友就很正式地向教授的小女儿道了歉，同时表扬了她的礼貌。
对孩子容貌的夸奖需要谨慎，因为从他们成长的角度来说，对他们良好行为的夸奖更加重要。
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| Chinese | Pinyin | English |
|---|---|---|
| 有 | yǒu | to have; there is |
| 一 | yī | one / single / a (article) |
| 次 | cì | classifier for enumerated events: time |
| 朋友 | péng you | friend |
| 去 | qù | to go, to go to |
| 个 | gè | classifier for people or objects in general |
| 教授 | jiào shòu | professor |
| 家 | jiā | home / family / (polite) my (sister, uncle etc) |
| 中 | zhōng | within; among; in |
| 做客 | zuò kè | to be a guest or visitor |
| 五 | wǔ | five / 5 |
| 岁 | suì | classifier for years (of age) |
| 的 | de | possessive particle (of; 's) / modifying particle (used after an attribute to modify a noun or to form a nominal expression) |
| 小 | xiǎo | young |
| 女儿 | nǚ ér | daughter |
| 长 | zhǎng | to grow / to develop / to increase / to enhance |
| 得 | de | structural particle: used after a verb (or adjective as main verb), linking it to following phrase indicating effect, degree, possibility etc |
| 非常 | fēi cháng | very; really |
| 漂亮 | piào liang | pretty; beautiful |
| 对 | duì | towards; at; for / concerning; regarding |
| 女孩 | nǚ hái | girl; lass |
| 说 | shuō | to speak; to talk; to say |
| 你 | nǐ | you |
| 真 | zhēn | really / truly / indeed |
| 并 | bìng | furthermore / also / simultaneously |
| 把 | bǎ | (used to put the object before the verb: 把[ba3] + {noun} + {verb}) |
| 带 | dài | to wear / to carry / to take along / to bear / to bring |
| 礼物 | lǐ wù | gift; present |
| 给 | gěi | to give |
| 了 | le | (completed action marker) / (modal particle indicating change of state, situation now) |
| 她 | tā | she |
| 礼貌 | lǐ mào | courteous; polite |
| 地 | de | -ly / structural particle: used before a verb or adjective, linking it to preceding modifying adverbial adjunct |
| 微笑 | wēi xiào | to smile |
| 着 | zhe | aspect particle indicating action in progress or ongoing state |
| 谢谢 | xiè xie | thanks / thank you |
| 等 | děng | to wait for; to await |
| 离开 | lí kāi | to depart; to leave |
| 后 | hòu | afterwards / after |
| 很 | hěn | very; quite |
| 严肃 | yán sù | (of an atmosphere etc) solemn; grave; serious / (of a manner etc) earnest; severe; exacting |
| 请 | qǐng | please (do sth) |
| 为 | wèi | because of / for / to |
| 刚才 | gāng cái | just now / a moment ago |
| 夸奖 | kuā jiǎng | to praise / to applaud / to compliment |
| 道歉 | dào qiàn | to apologize |
| 感到 | gǎn dào | to feel; to sense; to perceive |
| 吃惊 | chī jīng | to be startled / to be shocked / to be amazed |
| 但是 | dàn shì | but; however |
| 继续 | jì xù | to continue; to proceed with; to go on with |
| 夸 | kuā | to boast; to exaggerate / to praise |
| 孩子 | hái zi | child |
| 可能 | kě néng | possible / probable |
| 会 | huì | to be likely to; to be sure to |
| 天生 | tiān shēng | innate / natural |
| 美丽 | měi lì | beautiful |
| 看成 | kàn chéng | to regard as |
| 是 | shì | to be (followed by substantives only) |
| 值得 | zhí dé | to merit; to deserve; to be worth (doing sth) |
| 骄傲 | jiāo ào | conceited / proud of sth |
| 资本 | zī běn | capital (economics) |
| 这 | zhè | this; these |
| 种 | zhǒng | classifier for types, kinds, sorts |
| 错误 | cuò wù | mistaken; false; wrong |
| 引导 | yǐn dǎo | to guide / to lead (around) / to conduct / to boot |
| 不过 | bù guò | but / however |
| 还 | hái | still, still in progress, yet |
| 机会 | jī huì | opportunity / chance / occasion |
| 弥补 | mí bǔ | to complement / to make up for a deficiency |
| 可以 | kě yǐ | can / may / possible / able to |
| 和 | hé | and; together with |
| 自己 | zì jǐ | oneself; (attributive) one's own |
| 努力 | nǔ lì | to make an effort; to try hard; to strive |
| 结果 | jié guǒ | outcome; result; consequence |
| 后来 | hòu lái | afterwards; later |
| 就 | jiù | in that case; then |
| 正式 | zhèng shì | formal; official |
| 向 | xiàng | towards / shortly before / formerly / always / all along |
| 道了歉 | dào le qiàn | apologized; made an apology |
| 同时 | tóng shí | at the same time; simultaneously |
| 表扬 | biǎo yáng | to praise / to commend |
| 容貌 | róng mào | one's appearance / one's aspect / looks / features |
| 需要 | xū yào | to need; to want; to demand; to require |
| 谨慎 | jǐn shèn | cautious / prudent |
| 因为 | yīn wèi | because; owing to; on account of |
| 从 | cóng | from; through; via / (bound form) retainer; attendant / (bound form) assistant; auxiliary; subordinate / (bound form) related by common paternal grandfather or earlier ancestor |
| 他们 | tā men | they; them |
| 成长 | chéng zhǎng | growth |
| 角度 | jiǎo dù | angle / (fig.) point of view |
| 来 | lái | (used as a substitute for a more specific verb) |
| 良好 | liáng hǎo | good / favorable / well / fine |
| 行为 | xíng wéi | action; conduct; behavior; activity |
| 更加 | gèng jiā | more (than sth else) / even more |
| 重要 | zhòng yào | important; significant; major |