份子钱是中国人情社会的一种传统习俗,指在婚礼、满月、乔迁、丧礼等重要场合中,亲朋好友以现金形式表达祝福。
古代,份子钱多以实物为主,例如酒、粮食等,后来逐渐演变为现金形式,金额也随着社会发展逐年增加。
份子钱本来是一种互助方式,能帮助新人分担婚礼的经济压力,同时也是一种表达祝福和增进关系的方式。
在熟人圈子中,份子钱形成了一种动态的平衡:今天我随份子钱,未来我办喜事时也会得到相应的回报,这种礼尚往来维系了社会关系的和谐。
随着份子钱金额的增加,很多人感到经济压力。
根据调查,大多数人在婚礼上选择的金额是500到1000元,但对于关系亲密的亲友,金额可能高达2000元以上。
特别是年轻人,刚刚工作不久,收入有限,却需要面对各种随礼的“红色炸弹”,这让他们感到负担沉重。
另一方面,收礼的一方也未必开心,因为“礼尚往来”往往意味着将来需要加倍回赠。
为了减轻经济压力,一些年轻新人选择互免份子钱,比如在请柬上声明“不收礼”,或者用“礼金互免卡”代替现金。
这种做法让婚礼回归祝福的本意,也受到越来越多人的支持。
据调查,85.55%的人赞成互免份子钱,50.29%的人愿意取消这一习俗。
份子钱作为一种传统习俗,承载了人情和祝福的意义,但也带来了不小的经济压力。
在现代社会,随着人们观念的改变和经济情况的不同,互免份子钱正成为一种新的趋势,让人情往来更加轻松简单。
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| Chinese | Pinyin | English |
|---|---|---|
| 份子钱 | fèn zi qián | gift money (on the occasion of a wedding etc) |
| 是 | shì | to be (followed by substantives only) |
| 中国 | Zhōng guó | China |
| 人情 | rén qíng | human emotions / social relationship; friendship / favor; a good turn |
| 社会 | shè huì | society |
| 的 | de | possessive particle (of; 's) / modifying particle (used after an attribute to modify a noun or to form a nominal expression) |
| 一 | yī | one / single / a (article) |
| 种 | zhǒng | classifier for types, kinds, sorts |
| 传统 | chuán tǒng | traditional / conventional |
| 习俗 | xí sú | custom / tradition / local tradition / convention |
| 指 | zhǐ | to point at or to / to indicate or refer to |
| 在 | zài | (of sb or sth) to be (located) at |
| 婚礼 | hūn lǐ | wedding ceremony / wedding |
| 满月 | mǎn yuè | the full moon |
| 乔迁 | qiáo qiān | to move (to a superior place) |
| 丧礼 | sāng lǐ | funeral |
| 等 | děng | and so on; etc.; et al. / (used to end an enumeration) |
| 重要 | zhòng yào | important; significant; major |
| 场合 | chǎng hé | situation / occasion / context / setting / location / venue |
| 中 | zhōng | within; among; in |
| 亲朋好友 | qīn péng hǎo yǒu | friends and family / kith and kin |
| 以 | yǐ | by means of / according to / in order to / because of / at |
| 现金 | xiàn jīn | cash |
| 形式 | xíng shì | outer appearance / form / shape / formality |
| 表达 | biǎo dá | to express; to convey |
| 祝福 | zhù fú | blessings |
| 古代 | gǔ dài | ancient times |
| 多 | duō | many; much; more; a lot of |
| 实物 | shí wù | material object / concrete object / original object / in kind / object for practical use / definite thing / reality / matter (physics) |
| 为 | wéi | to take sth as / to act as / to serve as / to behave as / to become / to be / to do |
| 主 | zhǔ | main |
| 例如 | lì rú | for example; for instance; such as |
| 酒 | jiǔ | wine (esp. rice wine) / liquor / spirits / alcoholic beverage |
| 粮食 | liáng shi | foodstuff / cereals |
| 后来 | hòu lái | afterwards; later |
| 逐渐 | zhú jiàn | gradually |
| 演变 | yǎn biàn | to develop; to evolve |
| 金额 | jīn é | sum of money / monetary value |
| 也 | yě | also; too; as well; (not ...) either |
| 随着 | suí zhe | along with / in the wake of / following |
| 发展 | fā zhǎn | development / growth |
| 逐 | zhú | individually / one by one |
| 年 | nián | year |
| 增加 | zēng jiā | to raise; to increase |
| 本来 | běn lái | originally / at first / of course |
| 互助 | hù zhù | to help each other |
| 方式 | fāng shì | way; method; manner; mode; pattern (of behavior etc) |
| 能 | néng | can / to be able to / might possibly |
| 帮助 | bāng zhù | to help; to assist |
| 新人 | xīn rén | newcomer; new recruit; fresh talent / newlywed, esp. new bride / newlywed couple; bride and groom / (paleoanthropology) later-period Homo sapiens |
| 分担 | fēn dān | to share (a burden, a cost, a responsibility) |
| 经济 | jīng jì | economic |
| 压力 | yā lì | pressure |
| 同时 | tóng shí | at the same time; simultaneously |
| 和 | hé | and; together with |
| 增进 | zēng jìn | to promote / to enhance / to further / to advance (a cause etc) |
| 关系 | guān xì | relation / relationship / guanxi |
| 熟人 | shú rén | acquaintance / friend |
| 圈子 | quān zi | circle / ring / (social) circle |
| 形成 | xíng chéng | to form; to take shape |
| 了 | le | (completed action marker) / (modal particle indicating change of state, situation now) |
| 动态 | dòng tài | dynamic (science) |
| 平衡 | píng héng | balance / equilibrium |
| 今天 | jīn tiān | today |
| 我 | wǒ | I; me; my |
| 随 | suí | to follow / to comply with / to allow |
| 未来 | wèi lái | future / tomorrow |
| 办 | bàn | to take care of (a matter); to deal with (a task, procedure etc); to organize (an event) / to establish; to set up; to manage; to run (an enterprise) / (law) to handle; to investigate; to prosecute (a case or suspect) |
| 喜事 | xǐ shì | happy occasion / wedding |
| 时 | shí | when |
| 会 | huì | to be likely to; to be sure to |
| 得到 | dé dào | to get; to obtain; to receive |
| 相应 | xiāng yìng | answering (one another) / corresponding / relevant / appropriate |
| 回报 | huí bào | (in) return / reciprocation / payback / retaliation |
| 这 | zhè | this; these |
| 礼尚往来 | lǐ shàng wǎng lái | lit. proper behavior is based on reciprocity (idiom) / fig. to return politeness for politeness |
| 维系 | wéi xì | to maintain / to keep up / to hold together |
| 和谐 | hé xié | harmony |
| 很多 | hěn duō | many; a lot of |
| 人 | rén | person; people |
| 感到 | gǎn dào | to feel; to sense; to perceive |
| 根据 | gēn jù | according to / based on |
| 调查 | diào chá | investigation / inquiry / survey / (opinion) poll |
| 大多数 | dà duō shù | (great) majority |
| 上 | shàng | (noun suffix) on; above |
| 选择 | xuǎn zé | to select; to pick |
| 到 | dào | to reach; to arrive / to (a place); until (a time); up to (a point) / (verb complement indicating arriving at a place or reaching a point) |
| 元 | yuán | currency unit (esp. Chinese yuan) / era (of a reign) / (geology) eon |
| 但 | dàn | but; yet; however; still |
| 对于 | duì yú | regarding; as far as (sth) is concerned; with regard to |
| 亲密 | qīn mì | intimate / close |
| 亲友 | qīn yǒu | friends and relatives |
| 可能 | kě néng | might (happen) / maybe / perhaps |
| 高 | gāo | high / tall / above average / loud |
| 达 | dá | to attain / to reach / to amount to / to communicate |
| 以上 | yǐ shàng | that level or higher; that amount or more |
| 特别 | tè bié | very; especially; particularly / in particular |
| 年轻 | nián qīng | young |
| 刚刚 | gāng gāng | just recently / just a moment ago |
| 工作 | gōng zuò | to work / (of a machine) to operate |
| 不 | bù | no; not so |
| 久 | jiǔ | (of a period of time) long |
| 收入 | shōu rù | income / revenue |
| 有限 | yǒu xiàn | limited; finite |
| 却 | què | but / yet / however / while / nevertheless / even though |
| 需要 | xū yào | to need; to want; to demand; to require |
| 面对 | miàn duì | to face; to confront |
| 各种 | gè zhǒng | every kind of; all kinds of; various |
| 礼 | lǐ | gift / rite / ceremony / propriety / etiquette / courtesy |
| 红色 | hóng sè | red (color) |
| 炸弹 | zhà dàn | bomb |
| 让 | ràng | to permit / to let sb do sth / to have sb do sth / to make sb (feel sad etc) |
| 他们 | tā men | they; them |
| 负担 | fù dān | burden |
| 沉重 | chén zhòng | heavy / hard / serious / critical |
| 另 | lìng | other / another / separate |
| 方面 | fāng miàn | respect / aspect / field / side |
| 收礼 | shōu lǐ | to accept a gift / to receive presents |
| 方 | fāng | power or involution (math.) / direction / side / party (to a contract, dispute etc) / place / method / prescription (medicine) / abbr. for square or cubic meter |
| 未必 | wèi bì | not necessarily / maybe not |
| 开心 | kāi xīn | to feel happy / to rejoice / to have a great time |
| 因为 | yīn wèi | because; owing to; on account of |
| 往往 | wǎng wǎng | usually / in many cases / more often than not |
| 意味 | yì wèi | to mean / to imply / to get a sense of |
| 着 | zhe | aspect particle indicating action in progress or ongoing state |
| 将来 | jiāng lái | in the future |
| 加倍 | jiā bèi | to double / to redouble |
| 回 | huí | to go back / to turn around / to answer / to return |
| 赠 | zèng | to give as a present / to repel / to bestow an honorary title after death (old) |
| 为了 | wèi le | for; for the purpose of; in order to |
| 减轻 | jiǎn qīng | to lighten / to ease / to alleviate |
| 一些 | yī xiē | some; a few; a little; (following an adjective) slightly ...er |
| 互 | hù | mutual |
| 免 | miǎn | to excuse sb / to exempt / to remove or dismiss from office / to avoid / to avert / to escape / to be prohibited |
| 比如 | bǐ rú | for example; for instance; such as |
| 请柬 | qǐng jiǎn | invitation card / written invitation |
| 声明 | shēng míng | to state / to declare |
| 或者 | huò zhě | or |
| 用 | yòng | to use; to make use of; to employ / (coverb) with; using |
| 礼金 | lǐ jīn | monetary gift |
| 卡 | kǎ | (loanword) card |
| 代替 | dài tì | to replace; to take the place of |
| 做法 | zuò fǎ | way of handling sth / method for making / work method / recipe / practice |
| 回归 | huí guī | to return to / to retreat |
| 本意 | běn yì | original idea / real intention / etymon |
| 受到 | shòu dào | to receive (praise, an education, punishment etc); to be ...ed (praised, educated, punished etc) |
| 越来越 | yuè lái yuè | more and more |
| 支持 | zhī chí | support / backing |
| 据 | jù | according to |
| 赞成 | zàn chéng | to approve / to endorse / (literary) to assist |
| 愿意 | yuàn yì | to wish / to want / ready / willing (to do sth) |
| 取消 | qǔ xiāo | to cancel; to call off; to revoke; to rescind |
| 作为 | zuò wéi | to act as / to view as / to look upon (sth as) / to take sth to be |
| 承载 | chéng zài | to bear the weight / to sustain |
| 意义 | yì yì | sense / meaning / significance / importance |
| 带 | dài | to wear / to carry / to take along / to bear / to bring |
| 来 | lái | hither (directional complement for motion toward the speaker) |
| 小 | xiǎo | small / tiny / few |
| 现代 | xiàn dài | modern times / modern age / modern era |
| 人们 | rén men | people |
| 观念 | guān niàn | notion / thought / concept / sense / views / ideology / general impressions |
| 改变 | gǎi biàn | to change / to alter / to transform |
| 情况 | qíng kuàng | circumstances; state of affairs; situation |
| 不同 | bù tóng | different / distinct / not the same / not alike |
| 正 | zhèng | exactly / just (at that time) / right (in that place) |
| 成为 | chéng wéi | to become; to turn into |
| 新 | xīn | new; newly |
| 趋势 | qū shì | trend; tendency |
| 往来 | wǎng lái | dealings / contacts |
| 更加 | gèng jiā | more (than sth else) / even more |
| 轻松 | qīng sōng | light / gentle / relaxed / effortless / uncomplicated |
| 简单 | jiǎn dān | simple; not complicated |